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How To Adjust Tempur-Pedic Mattress Tempurature

Few mattresses require as much adjustment from consumers as a memory foam mattress does (be it Tempurpedic or other brand). Sowhywould you change how you sleep, even if just for the length of the free home trial, for the sake of a memory mattress? And if you are willing to compromise, just whatcanyou do to make sleeping on a Tempur mattress as comfortable as possible?

Tempurpedic Mattress Foam Formula And Heat Problems

The way Tempur-Pedic mattresses respond to heat is the number one reason consumers choose them over other brands but it is also the number one reported reason of most returns according to the countless consumer opinions we have read online.

A large proportion of peoplewho return their memory bed or mattress and then say they are uncomfortably warmto sleep on. But many go the other way and say it is too cold and firm. How do we know? Because many people for whom this mattress does not work have expressed their dissapointment in online reviews and comments.

Depending on your unique body chemistry, you may find sleeping on a memory foam mattress too hot or too cold. Having said that, you may really like the feeling of memory foam and you really do see yourself sleeping better on a Tempur mattress, if only you could adjust the temperature to make it more comfortable. It’s also important to remember that for every consumer who says Tempur feels too hot or too cold there are many others who don’t have this problem. The question is figuring out which group you fall into.

The strange thing is thatvisco elastic memory foam mattresses aresupposedto absorb body heatand breathe it out through millions of tiny air passages within the memory foam mattress. For many people though, these next two factors are overpowering and counteract that ability.

Memory foam mattresses trap heat well because they:

  • Usehigh density memory foam
  • Heat responsiveness improves body contouring(better body contouring results in more skin touching the mattress instead of being exposed to air to cool off)

The following tips apply not just to Tempurpedic but to any other heat-responsive memory foam mattress.

How To Make Your Tempur-Pedic Mattress Cooler

While you cannot alter Tempur foam density, you canchange how the memory mattress reacts to body heat. If the Tempur-Pedic bed didn’t react to heat as well as it could, there would be less contact with it and more exposure to air (which causes cooling).

Tempur-Pedic mattresses come with abreathable terry cloth coverwhich acts as a light barrier between you and the viscoelastic memory mattress. The cover solves the heat problem for many people but for many others, it doesn’t.

If the Tempur-Pedic mattress sleeps hot even with the cover on, use an additionalpad or cover over itto insulate the mattress from the body. The thicker the insulation, the longer it takes body heat to reach the Tempur foam layer. It becomes, therefore, less responsive to heat. But sadly, there is a trade-off.

Insulation means theTempurpedic mattress cannot react the best it possibly couldto body temperature, The end result is a somewhat firmer memory foam mattress thatwon’tsoften to become more gentle.

Some suppliers use pillowtops or fiberfill padding over the visco foam mattress to make it cooler to sleep on. To make up for the reduced heat responsiveness, they use lower density foam to allow better body conforming. Their attempt to recapture the gentle feeling visco elastic mattresses are best known for, however, results in less support and shorter longevity.

Other suggestionsfor making sleeping on Tempur-Pedic-style mattresses more comfortable without losing support or gentleness include:

  • Using fewer blankets to cover yourself
  • Keeping several terry cloth towels close by
  • Sleeping in a cooler environment (less than 65F) by airing the room before going to sleep or keeping windows open.

How To Make Your Tempur-Pedic Mattress Warmer

There are significantly fewer people who say Tempur-Pedic beds feel too cold. Cold memory foam mattresses also feel somewhat firmer. Here are some suggestions to make a Tempur mattress warmer and softer.

First thing to try would be to make sure the memory foam layer within the bed or mattress reacts the best it possibly can to body heat.

  • Tryremoving any pads or covers and sleeping directly on the Tempur-Pedic mattress. This should increase heat responsiveness, improve body contouring and allow more contact with the mattress. Less exposure to air equates to warmer Tempur mattresses.
  • Other suggestionsfor warming up and softening the foam include sleeping in a warmer environment (more than 65F) by heating the room before going to bed and walking or laying on the mattress for 20 minutes before actually going to bed.
  • Usingelectric blanketsor heated pads to warm the Tempur-Pedic bed is not recommended as they may damage the viscoelastic foam layer.

There are many compromises you may have to make if you really like the feel of memory foam mattresses, be it from Tempur-Pedic or others. Unfortunately, only your own body chemistry can tell you if and just how much adjustment you may have to go through before being completely comfortable sleeping on a memory mattress — not too hot and not too cold. And the best way to find that out is a mattress home trial.

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A Critical Eye On The Latest Mattress Technologies

3.5 lb vs 5.5 lb

Which to choose from a 3.5lb foam toppers versus 5.5lb Tempur-Pedic bed topper comparison? Higher density alone does not make a quality sleeping surface. The formula behind the best sleeping surface uses best quality, high-density foam that responds to body temperature.

Known Brands

What is the secret behind Tempur-Pedic mattress technology and why is it in the top 5 most popular brands alongside the likes of Sensus, Isotonic, Bergad and Sealy? The answer is that it uses good quality, high density, heat responsive foam.

How Long Does It Last?

What affects the expected lifetime of a memory overlay and does a Tempur mattress pad last longer? The answer is years and years as long as it’s made of better quality, higher-density foam.

Real NASA Link

Many manufacturers claim Swedish foam was first used by the NASA Space Program to boost sales for their visco memory foam beds.

NASA never did use that basic material in the 1960s. NASA bedding or space bedding technology simply does not exist as such.

The truth is the Swedish Tempurpedic company did eventually come up with a reliable formula now used in the best-selling Tempur mattress.

While Tempur-Pedic beds are commonly known to use Swedish mattress technology, not all such products made in Sweden are made of the so-called NASA bed foam.

How to Fix a Too Soft or Too Firm Mattress

If yourmattress is too firm or too soft, it can be difficult to get comfortable. Luckily, there are a few ways you can hack your mattress to make it better, without necessarily spending a lot or buying a new one.

Your options will depend on the shape of your existing mattress and on how firm or soft you’d prefer it to be.

Make a Mattress Firmer

If your existing mattress is too soft, there are a couple ways to increase firmness. Keep in mind that if your bed has lost its supportiveness and is causing pain, these hacks may not make a major difference in comfort.

1. Check Your Foundation

If a mattress is not properly supported, it can be prone to sagging. Make sure your boxspring still offers firm, resilient support, or that your foundation is solid. Also ensure your steel frame is in good shape (kings and queen size often need center bars/feet for adequate support). If you use slats, ensure they aren’t sagging or broken, and that they’re no more than three inches apart. If your foundation isn’t in good shape, replacing it can improve firmness.

You may also place solid wood or particle board sheets between the mattress and boxspring to offer a firmer surface, or consider using a platform bed where the mattress rests directly on a solid wood base. The board trick can be used on just one half of the bed if only one partner has an issue with the softness.

2. Add a Firm Topper

Although mattress toppers are usually used to soften surfaces, materials like firm dunlop latex or compact wool can slightly improve firmness or at least improve supportiveness. Avoid softer foams and fibers, however.

3. Replace Layers

If your mattress has a zip-off cover, removable topper or replaceable layers, you may be able to swap overly compressed or worn out layers with new, more supportive ones. Professional upholsterers may be able swap and resew layers as well, though beds with glued layers are likely not swappable (and your warranty would likely be voided).

4. Rotate Your Mattress

If you haven’t done so recently, try rotating your mattress 180 degrees. You should do this every so often when you buy a new bed, as it will promote more even wear. If your bed is flippable, that’s an option as well.

5. Consult Your Warranty

If your mattress is still under warranty, you may be able to claim repairs or get a replacement. Most warranties do not cover moderate softening over time, but most do cover deep impressions or defects.

Make a Mattress Softer

Making a mattress softer tends to be easier than making a mattress firmer, so you’re in luck.

1. Use a Mattress Topper

There are all kinds of mattress toppers available that can add additional contouring or pressure relief to the surface of a too-firm mattress. This is by far the simplest way to correct a too-firm mattress.

Memory foam and latex excel and pain relief and prove durable, though wool, cotton, feather, and poly foam toppers are also popular as well. Sleep Like The Dead finds that the following types of toppers have the highest owner satisfaction:

  • Memory Foam Toppers, particularly toppers under 2” thick with lower foam density
  • Wool Toppers
  • Down Alternative/Fiber Toppers

2. Break Your Mattress In

If your problem is a new bed that feels to firm, you may need to work on break it in. Walking across the surface of the bed for several minutes per day, continuing to sleep on the bed, and rotating it often can help.

3. Rotate Your Mattress

If your bed is feeling too soft where you normally sleep, rotate the mattress or flip it if it is two-sided. Just like with too-soft beds, this promotes even wear and can help your bed stay comfortable longer.

4. Warm it Up

If you are sleeping on a temperature sensitive memory foam mattress, excessive firmness could be due to a too cool room. A gently heated mattress pad or warmer room temperature could help soften the surface a bit.

These tips and tricks can help you get a little more life out of a bed or simply improve the comfort. But, if your bed is truly in bad condition (broken springs, impressions several inches deep, deep sagging), than these tweaks may not be enough. Remember, the average mattress is only designed to last around 8-10 years. For beds that are beyond toppers and tweaks, check out our guides to finding the best mattress and how to have a better mattress shopping experience.

If you have any other tried and true tips for making a bed softer or firmer, feel free to share below!

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I have traded out 2 mattresses so far and now hate the third. How in the world am I going to find one that works? I feel like I tried everything out there. I tried a firm Truenergy and a luxury firm with pillowtop- both too firm. Then tried plush and too soft. I may just have to suffer forever.

I was always comfortable on the floor watching TV. I decided to replicate that surface of carpet over cement. Over time, I slowly added a 24″ in. X 24″ in. board only where my hip lie. Then, I added a plastic tub mat, then a bath-size throw rug., all covered by a quilted mattress cover. Finally, THAT solved my sciatica lower back problem which I have had for ten years. Try different surfaces around your home such as a flattened cardboard box until you achieve the right hardness. These layers do not show through when my bed is made up. OH, what a relief it is!

I recently switched from softer to firm! Worst mistake ever! If u can buy something in between that provides support but also cushion so it’s comfortable to lay on but your body isn’t sinking into it! I was told to buy firmer bc I’m a belly sleeper, however it didn’t wrk out in my favor. I’m trying to decide whether to return it or try softening it up!

Return. Drained as iam am from spending 2000.00 on so called firm plush. First one was like sleeping on a bed of rocks. My husband likes his side, but it’s just too hard for mr.

I recently purchased a firm mattress because my older one was a softer plush. My older mattress is still comfortable, however, my back was aching after sleeping on it only a few hours so I thought maybe I needed firmer. I now have this new mattress that I find extremely uncomfortable because it feels so hard! Do I go through the trouble of returning it, if that’s possible or do I buy something to soften it up? Feeling a bit overwhelmed and that I made a bad decision with choosing firm!

How to Make a Firm Mattress Softer

I like a softer mattress, and here are all the tricks I’ve learned to get a better night’s sleep!

I have never been an adherent to the school of the firm mattress. A bed should be about comfort. It should be a refuge from the harshness of the world and a place to relish sweet dreams. There are many things you can do to make a firm mattress softer, let’s start with the cheapest and work our way up.

1. Use a Foam "Egg Crate" Mattress Topper

This is what my mother always called those foam pads that you can put on your mattress. In college, my roommate had never seen one of these, until I threw one on her spartan bed to cushion her bony body. They are the cheapest way of softening up a bed. I recently bought one for around $20 at Wal-Mart. Of course, they vary in thickness, so the more you pay, the thicker of a foam pad you’ll get. Throw it down on the bed, top with sheets, and you’re done!

2. Use a Feather Bed

The classic choice, a featherbed is made up of bird down mixed with larger feathers to make a fluffy, soft nest for your bed. There is a very wide price range when it comes to featherbeds. You can go down to your local Bed Bath and Beyond and pick one up for $70, or you can go to Macy’s and buy a $400 Charter Club featherbed.

There are a couple of things to keep in mind when shopping for a featherbed, however. The first is the percentage of down the featherbed has. You want a high percentage of down in a featherbed, because more down means less larger feathers. These larger feathers can prove crunchy and will poke out of the fabric, pricking you when you are just dozing off.

Another thing to consider is the thickness, or fluffiness, of a featherbed. Your weight will compact the bed a bit, though it can be fluffed back up. A cheaper bed will not wear well over time and will be flat as a pancake in a few months. A good featherbed will resume its shape after a good fluffing, however, and will last many years.

3. Buy a Memory Foam Topper

The new kid on the block, memory foam is what the astronauts sit on during takeoff. Memory foam is made of polyurethane that’s chemically altered to be very dense. It’s also responsive to heat, making it softer in warm spots and harder in cool areas. Because memory foam is so dense, it can be very heavy, but it is also very supportive.

Memory foam, unlike feather beds, does not have as large a range of quality. Yes, some memory foams may be softer than others (marginally), but there aren’t factors like down percentage to encounter. The key quality to consider while searching for a memory foam topper is thickness. The thicker the memory foam the more support, and the further you are away from your hard mattress. Memory foam runs from about $110 for a 1/2" topper to $800 for a full-on mattress. Many in between sizes exist, usually made in half-inch increments.

Memory foam can also be considered a good investment, because it retains its shape and lasts a very long time. (I’m talking about "it may come with you to your next mattress" long time).

4. Use a Combination of These Methods

I personally enjoy the best of both worlds. On my bed, I have a hybrid feather and memory foam topper. The memory foam provides a half-inch base while feathers are on top. The feathers provide a pillow-like feeling, while the memory foam provides curve-hugging support. I bought this about a year ago, and the topper is still going strong. For about $110, I consider it a very smart investment in a good night’s sleep. Keep your eye out on places like eBay and Overstock.

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Where can you find this hybrid? I’ve looked everywhere. Is there a brand name or another name for it?


I have a memory foam pad and I really like it. My husband loves the feel but isn’t very fond of how hot the memory foam makes him.


9 years ago from Washington

Ava-I agree, memory foam takes a little getting used to, but once you do you can never go back!

Ava Da Luca

Memory foam is really the way to go it last a really long time and feels great. Make sure to go to a place where you can try it out first though some people don’t really like the feel of it.


9 years ago from slovenia

lots of good information, it helped me a lot.

keep up that good work

Sarah Carlsley

9 years ago from Minnesota

MMMmm-memory foam. I wouldn’t go back to anything else. Great hub, thanks for the ideas!

Susan Hazelton

9 years ago from Sunny Florida

Great options, there’s nothing worse than tossing and turning all night on an uncomfortably had bed. Thanks for the information.


Interesting read, but I can’t understand anyone wanting to make a mattress softer. I love my firm Millbrook bed and I hate staying in hotels where the mattress always seems to have too much give.

For me, firmer is always better 🙂

Zach Smith

Memory foams might make the mattress a lot firmer. Latex foams might be a better choice since these mattresses usually have lesser density. Try looking for a latex pad. What is great about latex is that it offers a combination of upper back support and lower back comfort. Many people are in need of this type of comfort.


thanks . this really helped becuz i was going to buy the new TEMPURPEDIC CLOUD SUPREAM it cost around 2,000 but now i can get a soft mattress without paying all that mony:)


10 years ago from California

You have a lot of great ideas for softening a firm mattress. It almost makes you think that if you are going to err on the firmness of your mattress when you are buying a new one, you should error on the side of firmness, because you can always soften it up. Nice hub.


10 years ago from Washington

BM-Try, they always have an interesting selection of bedding goods for a reasonable price.


Where can I get a memory foam + fiberbed hybrid in queen size or memory foam and down. Ive looked evryhere but I cant seem to find it


10 years ago from Washington

Model Girl- Wal-Mart and Bed, Bath and Beyond are both good choices, as is Target. Sometimes you can score good deals at stores like Ross and TJ Maxx too!

Pretty Model Girl

10 years ago from Tempe, AZ

You know, this is a really good idea. I hate my mattress now, it’s so uncomfortable. Other than Overstock, where’s a good place to pick up a topper in person?

fat boy bean bag

Its fairly a good job. I think I got what I was looking for. Its really nice now to shop for mattress. As there are a variety of mattresses so difficult to choose one. But thanks to your hub which helped me in this regard. Thanks once again.

Stephanie Marshall

11 years ago from Bend, Oregon

Lots of options! Nice job on this Hub. Makes me want to go shopping.

ps. I love your avatar with your dog!

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How To Make A Mattress Softer

A few ways you can make a firm mattress softer and more accommodating.

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Did your new bed turn out to feel more like a bench than a cloud? Don’t worry, we have some tips for you to make your mattress softer and more comfortable.


So you made the mistake of testing mattresses at the end of a long day, when anything would have been comfortable as long as you were off your feet. Now your bed has arrived and it’s too firm. Or maybe you switched up sleeping positions to your side, and now you need a mattress that will accommodate for your arm instead of pressing against it and giving you a dead limb to wake up to in the morning. Or maybe a partner moved in and they need a softer bed to sleep on. Whatever the reason might be, rest assured there are plenty of simple options to soften your bed up.

Let’s first talk about the reasons why having a softer mattress can be so important, and then we’ll go over some options for making your bed softer.

Why Firmness Level Is Important

Keep in mind that when we mention firmness in our Slumber Yard mattress reviews, we are doing so in a relative manner. Firmness is a term that is largely dependent on weight and body type. The more one weighs, the more they’ll sink down into a mattress and then the softer it will feel for them. Same goes for petite individuals, but just the opposite—the less you weigh, the more you’ll find yourself laying on top of the mattress, instead of in it. Because of this, petite people may have a harder time than others finding a soft-feeling mattress.

With some select mattresses, though, we’ve found that heavy individuals will actually sink through the comfort layers of the bed and end up laying more on top of either the poly foam or coil base layers, which will make the bed feel quite firm. This is a sign that you need a thicker, more supportive mattress.

Sleeper type is also super important when taking into consideration the firmness level of your mattress. Back and stomach sleepers usually need a firmer surface that will support their hips and shoulders to keep their spine in a neutral alignment. If the bed is too soft, back and stomach sleepers might find their hips sinking too deep in the bed, which makes the spine arch. Side sleepers will need a softer mattress that will be more accommodating for their hips and shoulders. If you sleep on your side on a mattress that is too firm, it will constrict the blood flow in the arms and hips, which can leave them feeling tingly or even cause you to lose feeling.

Many people find a soft mattress to be much more comfortable than one that is on the firm side. This can be extra important for those with conditions like scoliosis or fibromyalgia. Considering we spend a third of the day sleeping, which adds up to us spending almost a third of our lives sleeping, we should do so in comfort. Also, keeping the spine in proper alignment, whether sleeping on your back or on your side, is very important for the overall health of your body. Keep this all in mind as we talk about the different options you have when it comes to softening up a mattress.

Options For Softening Up Your Mattress

Break it in.If your bed is new and feels too firm, it may just need more time to break in a bit. Just like new shoes need to be worn in, so does your mattress. You can break it in by simply sleeping on it night after night like you normally would, or if you want to speed up the process, you could literally walk around your bed for a couple minutes a day. You could even have your kids (or borrow your sister’s kids) come and jump on it to soften it up quicker. Most mattress companies state that it can take up to 60 days to break in a new mattress. Novosbed won’t even accept returns before the first 60 days, and then offers to send you a Comfort+ Kit (a free foam topper) if you feel the firmness of the bed isn’t soft enough for you.

Try to break the mattress in quicker

Check your trial period.More often than not, online mattress companies will have trial periods where you can test out your new bed in your own home before you fully commit to it. Most often companies offer a 100-night trial period, but some brands have extended trials. Nectar, for example, offers a year long trial period. If you got your mattress recently, check and see if it’s still under its trial period because it might be eligible for a free return and refund, and most companies will come and remove the mattress for you, as well.

Flip or rotate your mattress.If know your mattress is flippable, try out the other side. Some mattress companies like Layla have different firmness levels per side, so the other side of the bed may be softer for you. Also, we always recommend rotating your mattress seasonally to prevent against sagging or permanent indentations. When your bed has permanent indentations, it can mean that the comfort layers of the bed are compressed, making them feel firmer. Try rotating it so that the heavier parts of your body like your hips and shoulders are in different spots. Keep in mind that sagging and impressions can be a sign it’s time to get a new mattress, though.

Warm it up.Some common mattress materials, like memory foam or airy polyurethane foam, can be temperature sensitive. Much like how memory foam allows your body to sink into the foam as it absorbs your body heat, a warm room will help the whole bed to soften up. Try adjusting your thermostat, using a heated blanket, or switching to flannel sheets to warm things up.

The warmer the memory foam bed is, the softer it will appear

Get a mattress topper.There are tons of great options on Amazon, and they’re much cheaper than getting a new bed altogether. There are different types of mattress toppers available that can add extra pressure relief or body contouring. We specifically recommend a thick memory foam topper, a goose down topper, or a wool topper for a softer feel. Be aware that egg crate style toppers can sometimes have too much texture and can annoy sensitive sleepers. You could also get a mattress pad, but toppers are thicker and more plush.

If all else fails, get a new mattress.Like we talked about in the intro, the firmness level of your mattress is very important for your spinal health. Having a bed that’s worn out, sagging, or much too firm can lead to body stiffness or trouble sleeping, which can lead to other issues. If these tips and tricks offered aren’t helping, it can mean it’s time to just get a new bed. Feel free to take our Mattress Finder Quiz if you need some help figuring out which bed might be best for you.

What Can You Do To Make A Hard Bed Softer & More Comfortable?

Life is too short to spend it sleeping on a bed that doesn’t make you feel like a million bucks.

If you just bought a mattress and it seems overly firm, you’ll need to figure out a few things:

  1. Does it feel hard just because it’s new? Will it soften up over time?
  2. Did you buy something that simply isn’t right for you?

In the first case, you’ll be happy with your bed in no time. I’ve got a few tips that’ll help you break in your bed so it’s more comfortable.

If your situation is more like the latter, you’ve got a tough decision to make. Returning something this bulky (and personal) is a pain the rear. And some companies have more generous return policies than others, so you might not even be part of the return window.

Since you’ve already got the thing in your house, perhaps there’s a way to salvage the situation andmake your firm mattress softer.

Making Your Firm Mattress Soft

Check Your Foundation

If you’ve recently bought a mattress and it feels to firm, the first thing you should do is check your foundation. The reason is that not all types of mattresses are suited for different types of foundations. For example, if you recently switched from an innerspring bed to memory foam, you’ll need to ditch the box spring.

On the other hand, if you have something that’s not memory foam, then a box spring foundation can make your bed feel softer. This is something to keep in mind if perhaps you don’t have a box spring.

As a general rule, remember that box springs are designed for innerspring mattresses. Just as the name implies, it’s a box with springs inside that function as motion isolators for bouncy and disruptive coiled beds.

The foundation itself can be either a solid or slatted platform. Platforms tend to make a surface firmer, so if you’re feeling especially uncomfortable and you have a foam bed you may want to consider an adjustable base that may not be as hard.(See our top mattresses for platform beds here.)

Stepping on the Bed

A brand new mattress may be firmer than you anticipated, but you can easily soften it up by taking a few steps. Literally. You can break it in by sleeping on it night after night, and you’ll experience some softening over time. However, if you want more comfortable sleep sooner, you can walk across the top of it every day, preferably for several minutes at a time, and that should soften it up quicker.

It probably goes without saying, but I recommend doing this procedure without shoes, so that everything stays clean.

Use a Mattress Topper

Buying a topper is one of the quickest, most effective, and cheapest ways to make a hard surface softer. By adding a supportive layer to the top of your bed, you can enhance pressure point relief and contouring. There are different materials available, including latex, memory foam, wool, cotton, feather, polyfoam, and down alternative.

The most popular option is memory foam. If you go with this variety, get something that is under two inches thick and a lower density for extra softness. (See our guide on memory foam density.)

Warm it Up

This tip works if you’re sleeping on a memory foam mattress. Because memory foam responds to external temperatures, a warm room will make it softer, and a cold room will make it harder. If you’re sleeping in a chilly bedroom, consider upping the thermostat a few degrees to make things warmer.

Rotate and Flip It

If your mattress can be rotated or flipped, this option might provide some relief. It won’t work for pillowtop beds, but most others are flippable. You have two options:

  1. Rotate it 180 degrees. Now the area that supported your head will now support your feet and vice versa.
  2. Flip it over so that the top side is facing down.

Just like you rotate your tires regularly for even wear, the same should be done for your mattress.

Making Your Soft Mattress Firm

Check Your Foundation

If your bed is getting older, the first thing you should do is check your foundation to make sure everything is intact and there hasn’t been excessive wear and tear. Without a solid foundation, you’re likely to feel the uncomfortable effects of a sagging mattress.

If you have a boxspring, check to make sure that it feels firm and resilient. If not, it’s time to have it replaced. If you have a platform with slats, check to make sure that none of them are broken, sagging, and they’re no more than three inches apart. Anything more and the bed won’t have enough support, which will create a sagging or sinking feeling.

Here’s a cool life hack that’ll only cost you a couple of bucks: put a thin board, like plywood, between the mattress and the boxspring. You’ll get a firmer surface, and if you and your partner have different preferences, you can just put the board on one side of the bed.

Make it Cooler

As you know, memory foam responds to temperature. Since you can make a mattress softer by warming it up, the same is true when you want to make it harder. Cooling the room down to a lower temperature will stiffen up the material and make your bed feel firmer.

Rotate and Flip It

While this tip was mentioned as a way to make a hard mattress softer, it’s usually more effective for making a soft and saggy cushion feel firm again. Because we tend to sleep in the same area of the bed, it’s not unusual for it to have indentations and body impressions that rob your body of support.

By rotating or flipping it, you may be able to find a spot that has the firmness you’re seeking.

Mattress Topper (again)

It’s a lot easier to use a topper to make a firm bed soft than the other way around, but it is still possible. There are a couple of materials that will subtly enhance the firmness of your mattress, though it won’t be dramatic. The materials you should look for are Dunlop latex and compact wool. Avoid foams, as they’ll have the opposite effect.

Replace Layers

Does our bed have a removable zipper cover? If so, you may be able to take out old, saggy layers with fresh, firm ones. You may need to get the help of a professional, and make sure you double check your warranty. Manufacturers tend to void a warranty if you’ve materially altered their products.

How to Make Your Bed Comfortable

Have you ever had one of those days where you long for the moment that you can get home, crawl under the blankets, and relax? Pure heaven, right?

I’ve found that one of the easiest ways to ensure that my bed is the most comfortable space in the house is through a special layering technique. Each part of is a delightful sensation of softness and luxury.

Here are my top four go-tos for a comfortable night of sleep:

  1. Soft flannel sheets: In cooler weather, nothing beats the coziness of flannel sheets. When the weather heats up, I switch to jersey, t-shirt sheets. They are so soft!
  2. Add a memory foam mattress topper: Side sleepers tend to need more pressure relief on their hips and shoulders. A topper made out of memory foam provides the perfect amount of cradling support.
  3. Add a mattress pad cover: Get a quilted variety that holds your topper in place while doing double duty as an extra layer of padding.
  4. Get a body pillow: Sometimes I like to snuggle, but I don’t always want some hot, sweaty human with dragon breath taking up my space. That’s why I love my body pillow. I get all the benefits of a snuggle partner without any of the drawbacks(You can check out this one that we’ve reviewed earlier).

Frequently Asked Questions

Does a hard bed cause back pain?

Beds that are too hardortoo soft can both cause back pain. In the case of one that is too firm, you’ll find that it’ll push on your pressure points (hips, shoulders, and torso) and cause misalignment. One way to tell if your mattress is too hard is if your arm falls asleep even though you’re not putting much weight on it.Here you can see some of the picks that can relieve back pain.

Why does a new mattress feel firm?

Some types of mattresses feel firm when they’re brand new, and they can take some time to settle. This is especially true for memory foam. Some online companies compress their beds in a box for shipping. When a company does this, you’ll find that it will already be soft.

However, if your bed arrives fully intact, expect a bit of an adjustment period. It might be 30 days or more. Just like when you buy shoes and have to break them in to get rid of that “new” feeling, the same holds true for this type of product.

Does adding plywood underneath the bed make it firmer?

Yes, absolutely! You only need to do this if you have boxsprings. Otherwise, a solid platform frame will have the same effect.

Can I make my memory foam mattress firmer?

Yes, there are a few ways to make a memory foam bed feel firmer. The first is to sleep in a colder room. Cooler temperatures firm up the foam material. Another thing you can do is get a firm topper.


Whether you got a new bed that doesn’t match your expectations, or you have an old bed that’s starting to show its age, you can use one or more of these tips and make your sleep experience something that you actually look forward to each night.

Sources and References:

  1. The influence of bed firmness on sleep quality –
  2. 3 Signs Your Mattress Is Too Soft –

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